Sunday, August 30, 2015

Getting Through The True Love Tests Of Your Significant Other

By Daphne Bowen

Being in a relationship can be challenging. Many times people do not believe that the person that they are with really want to be with them. So, these individuals put their significant other through all types of true love tests. These tests are often not necessarily but because a person has insecurities they put another person through different types of situations.

However, the games are really not necessary. When two people are grown and should be able to communicate with one another, they should just be able to talk through their problems. The person should be able to say, you are making me feel a certain way in the relationship, and I do not like it.

People do not like to have to prove themselves. They want people, especially the ones who they care about to accept them for being them. It is difficult to get into a relationship, and every time you turn around someone wants you to profess your love for them.

You then have to figure out what you can do to make the person feel more comfortable with you. The person is looking for confirmation that you want them and no one else. So, it will be up to you to figure out what you can do.

During the time that you are sharing quality time if you feel that you are being put through unnecessary love games talk about it. You do not want to have to ultimately end up in counseling. However, if you do feel that you need to go talk to someone there is nothing wrong with it.

You tend to see both people worried about what the other person is doing. Some people just worry unnecessarily and this can put the relationship in limbo. So, what do you do if you are the person being put through these changes?

It is best to take a moment and step back from the relationship. Give the person time to figure out what is going on with themselves. You might even decide to take some time just for you. However, before getting back in the relationship, you want to sit down and have a heart to heart with the person. Let the person know that you are not the one for games, and you want them to be able to trust you.

Always focus on the good in one another and that will help to outweigh the negative. You have to remember that everyone comes with flaws. If you talk to the person and they still continue to play games and it is hurting you and the relationship, sometimes you have to make a decision to take a break from the relationship. Be sure to take a break in a way that it can be respected by your partner. Remember the person might not think that there is any harm in putting you through so many changes. However, it is important to let them know that you cannot handle the stress.

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