Saturday, May 30, 2015

The Frying Pan Of Happiness

By Evan Sanders

Step out onto the street and ask 100 people what their main goal in life is they will often give you an answer referring to the well known idea of lifetime happiness. But what does it essentially mean to live a happy life? How can we really create a deeply happy life on such an emotion that is as brief as any other emotion in the book? I mean, in theory this sounds like a really great idea...but how is it actually done?

When we are happy, we are just cheerful. We don't make an attempt to do anything with it or try to be more happy, we just are that way. But oh when we are angry, suffering , or mad, we try hard to do all kinds of things to get ourselves out of it. We try to kick the unkickable emotion, manipulate it, and exit out of it as quick as we truly can. Even worse, we attempt to ignore those uncontrollable emotions and rise high above them as if we could create that type of ladder for ourselves.

There's significant danger in this because if you fashion a false ladder of ascension, you will unavoidably come across life's wondrous way of ripping the rug out from under you at the most unsuitable time, and you will try and take a step backwards on the ladder rung below, only to unfortunately find that it is not there. Where are you headed? Like a rock to the bottom. Bam. Flat on your back.

So what are we able to do?

Court a tiny bit of chaos and craziness in your life. Start diving into the parts of your life that might not be the most fun places to go. You know, that place called the past, especially the places that hold negative memories. The real secret is to get your hand close enough to the frying pan to feel the heat and not burn yourself. You should also prevent yourself from staying so far away that you actually can't feel the heat at all. If you can find this middle ground in the darkness, staying close to the negative feelings without being consumed by them, you will find out some pretty interesting things about yourself.

Chaos and a little bit of craziness... those are very good things. You must have that energy flowing through you, and if you can harness it and create art with it, whatever that art may be, the opportunities are unlimited. Many think that only good places create good feelings. But in actuality, true happiness, love, compassion, those all important positive traits we wish for ourselves, can come from the darkness, chaos, and a pinch of madness. We believe that darkness only implies darkness. But could there be the presence of light, joy, and positive qualities even in the roughest moments of our lives? I would need to say yes.

Maybe we shouldn't be seeking contentment at all. Maybe we ought to be wanting to dive deep within ourselves as much as practicable and come to places of understanding and compassion. When we are open to all things, actually open to life's limitlessness, then anything can occur. When we are OK with that fact, things begin to get really exciting.

Just a thought.

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